Caring: a sincere commitment of love and compassion

 It is intricately complicated, learning how to live and communicate with someone whose communication pathways are broken on every level.

The one who cannot think, move, remember, speak, write, tolerate sound or movement, easily or at all, is drawn into a potentially fraught and delicate relationship with the other: If the person has to wait in agony, so you too need to learn to wait, patiently and peacefully, hopefully, despite any personal frustration or need.

If the person cries out, you feel it deep in your guts. If the person is suddenly confused, you too experience the uncertainty of confusion, not knowing exactly what is required. If the person is cross or distressed, it breaks your heart.

A fragile relationship is born over time, one that wends a path between silence, stillness, movement and sound.That path is not easy to navigate, it can only be entered upon when guided by a true heart and the most sincere commitment of love and compassion.

(Adapted from "More Notes For Carers" https://stonebird.co.uk/morenotes/index.html)